Choices. Our lives are filled with them. Even when we are fulfilling an obligation, it’s still a choice we make. We choose what kind of food to put in our body. We choose whether or not we are going to exercise. We choose whether we are going to read our twitter feed or do the dishes (I usually choose the former, in case you were wondering). We choose how we treat people and we choose how we are going to allow people to treat us. Some choices are simple, some are seemingly automatic. Others are more difficult. Some choices are good and there are some that provide us with learning experiences.
I have made some life changing choices in the past month and a half.
I choose to be treated with respect.
I have made the choice that I deserve to be treated with respect. As a result of that choice, I have once again ended up single.
As much as this should have been an easy decision (I mean, who doesn’t want to be treated with respect?), it really wasn’t. I struggle with feelings of self-worth. I almost knew with certainty that standing up for myself would bring about the result it did, but I hoped and prayed that it wouldn’t. I hoped that his choices would be different. They weren’t.
Sometimes one choice starts a chain reaction…
I choose to give my son a good life.
After 12 years in accounting, I was able to follow my dream and go to law school. I graduated with my Juris Doctorate in 2011 and in the same year passed the California Bar Exam and became a licensed attorney. While I liked accounting just fine, I was now going to be able to have a career I truly loved!
For the last year and a half as a lawyer, I have struggled financially. I barely am able to pay my bills. I liked practicing fine, but it wasn’t exactly as I expected it to be. I didn’t *love* like I thought I would. I also knew as a “baby” attorney, it would take a lot of hard work to break into the field and start getting a regular stream of private clients. I made the choice to do the work, learn and get clients when I could.
So much that has happened in the last month and a half led me to where I am right now. I’m about to start a new job that is not in the legal field.
While I have enjoyed practicing law, I need to support my son. So I have made the choice to go back into accounting.
I found the job on Craigslist on a Tuesday. I sent in my resume and a cover letter. I got a call later that same day. I had a phone interview on Wednesday. An in person interview on Thursday & a job offer by Friday morning.
I am very excited about my new job. For many reasons. I know I will no longer be a practicing attorney, and yes I worked very hard to get through law school and get my license to practice law, but my choice is to give my son a good life. And I am 100% happy with this choice. This is an amazing company and I feel very blessed to have come across the job posting. I am excited about my choice to begin this new path.
Sometimes choices aren’t life altering. Sometimes they are.
Here’s a great quote from The Single Woman‘s new book: Life, Love and a Dash of Sass.
I choose happiness.